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Roles for Children at your Wedding

Photo by Laurie for Emily Wren Photography

We recently did a blog post about deciding whether or not to have children at your wedding. For those of you that decide to incorporate children, we are taking a look at potential roles you can give children during the wedding to help incorporate them into your big day.

Flower Girl

Most people are familiar with the flower girl role. This is typically for girls between the ages of 2 and 8 years old. Of course you can go younger or older though, if you’d like! If you go younger, she will likely need to be escorted by an adult. If you are working with a child under the age of 5, we would definitely recommend appointing an adult to help them find their seats when they get to the front of the aisle. Flower girls can walk down solo, with another flower girl, the ring bearer or a junior usher. They can toss petals from a basket or they can just hold a flower ball!

Ring Bearer

Ring Bearers serve a similar role to the flower girls. The ring bearer can carry a pillow with a fake ring on it or even a sign that says here comes the bride. With a young ring bearer, just like a flower girl, appoint an adult to meet them at the end of their walk- maybe even with a special treat! We wouldn’t recommend having a ring bearer or flower girl stand with the wedding party during the ceremony.

Junior Bridesmaids

Too old to be a flower girl but too young to be a bridesmaid!? These little ladies might be best suited as a junior bridesmaid- typically between 8 and 16 yrs of age. You should incorporate them into as many of the activities as you can to make them feel special, but of course, keeping in mind their age, only give them tasks that will be fun for them!

Junior Groomsmen

Also known as a Junior Usher, these little guys serve a similar role to the Junior Bridesmaids.

Additional Roles

If you have a little one you’d like to incorporate into your wedding but maybe not in as prominent of a role as those listed above, here are a few more to consider:

  • Bringing up Communion Gifts in church (recommend ages 5+)

  • Handing out ceremony programs (ages 3+)

  • Bringing up sand for a sand ceremony (ages 3+)

  • Doing a very short reading (ages 7+)

  • Saying the blessing at the reception (ages 7+)

  • Being there for the first look

  • Joining first during the first dance

  • Performing a short song or dance themselves

  • Walking the family dog down the aisle

  • Ushering a flower girl/ ring bearer down the aisle

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