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Wedding to do's during the homestretch

New Jersey wedding couple; real NJ wedding

Recently it feels like May is the new September here at the Jersey Shore. May weddings have become very popular and with Governor Murphy's recent announcement about weddings in NJ we are so excited for everyone who is getting married over the next few months. [Above photo by Suess Moments Photography]

Today we wanted to take you through some of the to do's that can easily be over looked as your wedding nears. At the end of the planning process, there are so many little things to do. Since a lot of them happen during the last few weeks leading up to your wedding it's extra important to stay organized and not miss any of these little details. Below are a few key reminders as you enter the homestretch of your wedding planning process.

What's for breakfast...and lunch

Make sure you come up with a plan for meals in advance of the wedding. It's a very long day for you and your wedding party, especially the ladies who might have an early start time. Plan for delivery to wherever you are getting ready. Think about ordering something that won't be too messy since some people may already have their makeup done.

vendor tip envelopes for a wedding

Tip Envelopes

These of course are optional, but if you plan to tip your vendors, make sure you make your envelopes prior to the day of. We've seen a lot of couples scrambling to make these on their wedding day and it becomes stressful for them and takes away from time that they could be spending with their friends and family. We recommend labeling each envelope with the money inside and giving them to your wedding planner or a relative who will distribute them during the evening. That way you don't have to worry about carrying them around or tracking a vendor down to hand it off.

For on the Bus

If you are taking transportation to the ceremony, photo spots and the reception, it's a good idea to throw some food and drinks on there. Talk to the transportation company ahead of time to find out their policy. Some clean, simple snacks like pretzels or granola bars will go a long way. On the beverage front, water is a must and then you can throw in some beers or hard seltzer if the transportation company allows it.

Emergency Kit

When we plan a wedding, we come with our emergency kit which has over 50 items in it. If you don't have a wedding planner who is bringing one, you can plan to make your own mini kit. Our most used items are:

* Fashion Tape

* Scissors

* Hairspray

* Bobby Pins

* Sewing kit

* Lint Roller

* Pens/Markers

* Safety Pins

* Tissues

* Advil

* Tums

Alphabetize those Escort Cards

Opted for Escort cards rather than a seating chart? While someone like your planner or venue coordinator will be setting them up for you, be sure to alphabetize them ahead of time or get them to your planner prior to your wedding day so that they can do it for you. They should be alphabetized by last name.

Readings & Marriage License

If you are having people do readings at your ceremony, you should ask them to print a copy for themselves as a backup. As a backup to the backup, you should also print copies!

You'll also need your marriage license for the ceremony. Make sure you check with your officiant because some prefer you hand them over at the rehearsal. For more on how to obtain a marriage license in NJ check out our wedding planning guide article.

Wedding Invitation and Wedding Details photography

Items for your Photographer

Detail shots are one of my favorite things to look at. Photographers work their magic and are able to style your details to perfection. Talk to your photographer about what they would like for you to have on hand for the detail shot. Sometimes they can even provide additional items for you like ribbon, a ring box or a jewelry plate to match your colors.. Often, the list includes

* Bridal Hanger

* Invitation Suite

* Jewelry

* Your shoes (heels and reception shoes if you have both)

* Extra flowers from your florist

* Your perfume

* If you choose to, an envelope with calligraphy on it

* Custom stamps if desired

* Both sets of rings (yours and your partners)

* Garter

* Bouquet

* Your something Blue

* Anything else that is personal to you (ie a handkerchief)

Love Notes

Even if you and your partner don't want to do a gift exchange on your wedding day we always suggest at least doing a card. It's nice to be able to take some time to yourself and put your thoughts on paper so that your partner can read it during a quiet moment while getting ready. It's up to you whether or not you want the photographer to capture it!

Pamper Yourself!

We know it's hard but don't forget to make time for yourself! Get your mani/pedis, waxings, massages, tanning, etc scheduled well in advance so that you aren't scrambling last minute. You deserve some you time!


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